reactions, emotions, and belief
A lot of my friends lately seem to be going through hard times - deaths in the family, unhappy marriages, crappy jobs, medical issues - it seems to be swirling around me. I too, have seen my fair share of dilemmas of late, though perhaps less severe than my friends are experiencing. In the past, my response to my friends’ hardships has been one of empathizing - focusing on the issue to try to bring some relief. What I am finally realizing though, is that by focusing on those things, I am only fixing them in place for my friends and indirectly bringing them into my own life as well.
My recent shift in perspective is changing the way I handle these situations now. Instead of holding the thought that I want to help bring some emotional relief to my friends, I am instead honding on to the thought that no matter what happens, I will be ok. I have realized that if I’m ok, by extension I will attract things and people into my life that are ok as well. By extension, my friends will be ok when they are around me too. Those who don’t want to be ok will eventually drift away, because we will eventually have nothing in common and no basis for friendship.
So, lately, I’ve been telling myself that no matter what happens, I will be ok. Tonight I decided that wasn’t good enough. I don’t want things to just be ok - I want them to be great! I know that what I hold in my thoughts will eventually manifest physically, so by holding that thought, and believing it, I know things are going to get better for me, and by extension, those around me.
So what’s going to happen, you ask? Well, I don’t exactly have an answer to that. What I can tell you is, that whatever happens it will turn out to be very good for me, though it may not seem that way in the short term. Situations will resolve themselves in ways that make things better for me, and by extension, others as well, if they have the right perspective - which is not necessarily mine.
So, when all is said and done, yes, a lot friends are having temporary troubles, and I have my own issues and situations to deal with. What I know now, is that I will be ok - and I can and will be even better. And without me reminding them of whatever their current trouble is, my friends will be too.